Being a parent isn’t an easy task. With your kid, you grow as well. This is such a journey where you have challenges in every turn of the road. Each kid is different; therefore what is applicable to your friend’s child that may not go well with your child. That’s why you need to learn and educate yourself on parenting, especially if you are parents for the first time.
Now, when your kid is younger, managing him/her is easy. But, when they start to grow and come to their teenage, you have to be more cautious about them. They will have questions which may make you feel awkward, or they do things that they are not supposed to. You have to be their friend and handle them as delicate buds that are opening up into a beautiful flower. Here are a few tips that can help you in positive parenting to your tweens. Read on to know more-
1. Try to Be Their Friend
The age group from 10 to 14 is the time when your kid has the maximum peer pressure. Besides, this is the time when they start to recognize their individuality. They may not follow whatever you tell, blindly. They may ask questions. You have to deal with all these changes quite tactfully. And that you can do just by being friendly with your kid. Instead of dominating their query, you should clear their doubts so that they never learn the wrong things.
2. Educate Yourself
Instead of being an egoist that you know it all, try to understand your kid this time. And that you can do by educating yourself. Remember, your child is a different human being. He/she will grow her individual thoughts, opinions, and point of views about things around them from this time. If you don’t guide them well, they can get distracted. And you can only leave a positive impact on their life just by knowing them better. You can go through varieties of journals, ask your elders, and read books for this.
3. Stop Comparing Your Kids to Others
Are you doing it till now? You are only killing the self-esteem of your child and also his/her individuality. Comparing him/her with someone else will only break their confidence and that will hamper their future life. Remember, your kid is a unique entity; he/she is different and has some specialty in them. Try to encourage them so that they can find the right path of life.
4. Spend Time with Your Kids
Remember, teenage is the time when your kid requires you the most. They have lots of questions; they go through several changes (physically and mentally). If they don’t find someone to talk to, they will be misguided easily. So, you need to talk to them, spend time with them and try to understand them better.
5. Approve Their Little Fantasies
Does your 14-year-old daughter want ripped jeans on this Christmas? There is nothing bad in approving it. Actually, if you approve such small things, they may not be driven towards anything big. You have to set the limitation for them what they can ask for and what not. But, suppressing all their desires always can be too dangerous for your child.
6. Don’t Thrust Your Choices Upon Them
Maybe you wanted to be a great singer at your youth, but your son wants to play football. You should never force him to join a singing class because you want. Rather, if you enroll him in a football coaching, he will be full of respect and love for you. And who knows how he shines on his own way!
Hopefully, you understand how to deal with your growing kids, especially those who are teens or on the verge of teenage. Be their friend, but also make them remember that you are their parents too.
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